“A person is old when regrets take the place of dreams.” – John Barrymore
One day talking to a person, she confided to me that she was in financial difficulties and needed help. Since I believe most in the fishing rod than the fish, I invited her to see and evaluate a business opportunity. Even before seeing what it was the answer she gave me was this:
“I’ve had a business and did not work, I got deeply in debt and problems, I don’t want to know about businesses anymore.”
Of course I found it fantastic and made sure to tell her. Then I asked her what she would do: “maybe rob a bank ….” I suggested. Shee was not amused. Maybe the problems had also taken her sense of humor.
The fact is that she had managed to fail once and that really isn’t much. A successful businessman fails on average about 8 times. But she couldn’t know that. Anyway…
Put yourself for a moment in my friend’s place: little money, no prospects, a bad experience in a business, the underrated life of an employee. I did not dare (yet) to talk to her about the dreams that she, like all of us, already had and has, but hidden deep in the sock drawer. I didn’t talk to her about it yet because I think it would take a punch.
She is 34 years old and has lost the ability to dream. On the other hand, life and how to understand and decide to live it, gives her reasons to complain and whine everyday.
The regrets took the place of dreams. Worse, even prevent her from dreaming.
Dreams are like a memory. Without memory you don’t have a past, without dreams you don’t have a future.
I stipulate her mental age to be at 85, not to be offensive to anyone who is 85 years old and with a mental age of 25.
Why do you have to discipline yourself to keep away the resentments and disappointments in your rating system?